Breaking the Tinnitus Habit
- A How To Guide
by Paul
Tobey In regards to breaking the tinnitus habit, I recently
received an email from a reader who writes…
“I try to keep myself busy and do things that i enjoy but
it seems that my mind is always locked onto the sound. Are there
any tips you can give me that helps break this habit? I’m
at the point where I’m truely trying to accept my tinnitus
and sometimes I can and other times I can’t. I know it can’t
hurt me, but I fear that I will have to suffer the rest of my life
with it.”
In answer to this question, “Are there any tips you can give
me that helps break this habit?” I must first say that, most
definitely, it is a habit to focus on Tinnitus. In fact, I suspect
you’ve gotten so used to focusing on it all the time that
it’s a habit that would be incredibly hard to break. But,
not impossible!
So, how do you break a bad habit?
There is only one way to do this. Add habit forming positive routines
to your day that are equally habit forming. When you do this, your
new habits will override your old ones.
This process is much much easier when you are fully aware of your
destination. Even though life is not about the destination but about
the journey, knowledge of your true destination makes it easier
to focus every day on doing something that leads you to that destination.
When you do this your mind will turn away from the negative tinnitus
and be turned towards doing what it is you really want to do.
What do you want? I’m mean really want? ie: fame, fortune,
peace, success, money, companionship etc etc…. Take some time
and figure out what it is you really want and then make daily habits
that lead you to that destination. Good habits. Because, good habits
are just as easily formed as bad ones.
Let’s step away from tinnitus for a second and talk about
another easily formed bad habit. “Lack of Exercise”
which is a big problem in Western Society. You know it amazes me
when I ask people at the gym, “how are you?” or “how’s
it going.” Most of the time I get the response, “not
bad,” or “I’ll feel better when I’m done”
or “I hate the gym and I can’t get out of here fast
enough.”
For those people I know that I will see them very very infrequently.
Why? Because, you can’t be good at something you hate. It’s
impossible. When I first started going to the gym it was hard at
first but I made it into a habit. Now, everyone around me knows
that from 8:15 am to 10am every Monday, Wed and Friday I’m
at the gym. No one questions that. Why? Because it’s a habit
and everyone respects that. As a result, it’s something I
can count on to give me time away from work, from family and friends
to be by myself and doing something good for my body.
That’s how to make anything a habit. Learn to love what it
is you don’t necessarily like to do, because it’s good
for you! And, it is leading you to the destination of healthy living.
Now, let’s take a look at life. If I have a really big goal
it makes it so much easier for me to form habits that chase that
goal. What is my goal? To play at Carnegie Hall! Now that’s
a big goal. Will I ever get there? Who’s to say, but I believe
I will. But, even if I don’t, I’ll get 5,000 percent
further than if I never adopted that goal or ever learned anything
about actually achieving it. And, it doesn’t matter anyway.
Why? Because I’m focused on the goal and forming good habit
to meet that goal that takes my mind of the negative stuff like
Tinnitus.
What’s the really good news? You tinnitus will actually get
better (lower in volume) by not focusing on it. Trust me, I know
this works.
One final word. Avoid saying things like, “I fear that I
will have to suffer the rest of my life with it.” This is
the worst thing that you can do is say something like that. Why?
Because you’re focusing on what you don’t want…and
you’re just going to get more of it whether you like it or
not.
Right now, form a new habit by putting your intention forward and
adopting new phrases like…”somewhere someone has been
cured from their tinnitus, tomorrow it could be me.” The universe
understands what you want and what you don’t want equally.
When you weight your statements on the side of what you really want
you’re going to get more of it!
I noticed that you downloaded my “6 Top Ways to Reduce the
Ringing” eReport. You’re only on chapter 2. Have you
adopted the first 2 lessons? Can and will you make them a habit.
I promise that if you make them a habit you will heal over time.
Lessons 3 through 6 are also new habits to be formed. You must
do them. If you do not take the initiative because of your “fear”
then there is little I can do for you. But, I have a feeling that
you can and you will adopt these habits. Your sanity depends on
it.
Paul Tobey is a professional concert pianist and motivational speaker
who cured his Ringing
Ears without drugs or medical intervention.
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